This should be a happy family photo...but it isn't. Because even though I'm smiling, it's a mask. The rape and sexual abuse that I am going through at the hands of my stepdad (not in the photo) has made me a member of the 15% of girls in the UK who are hurt by the very people who are supposed to care for them. And he told me to not tell anyone.
By 2014, I was married, had 2 beautiful children and was running my own business. Even though I was smiling on this photo, I was falling apart on the inside.
The trauma from my past was still in my nervous system and starting to have an impact on my life. The anxiety and fear were the worst, waking up every day dreading how I'd feel. My best friend and I broke up, I was constantly angry and lonely, I'd cry over the smallest thing and I wasn't sleeping well. My body was remembering what my mind had learnt to silence and I was in constant fight/flight and freeze mode.
In my business it showed through procrastinating, self-sabotaging, overspending, lying about what I was spending and arguing constantly about money with my husband.....and then he was made redundant.
I was a mess and now all our financial responsibilities were on my shoulders.....
Around this time a friend told me about Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT /Tapping) and I began to learn about trauma and nervous system disregulation. As I began to re-regulate my nervous system, things began to fall into place: I started sleeping better, my confidence grew, my mind became focused and I started taking the actions to make and manage money I needed to.
My relationship with money became peaceful, even when business wasn't doing great. My husband and I began to have calm conversations about money (and it's now one of our favourite topics).
What I discovered was that at the root of your money issues is your nervous system dis-regulation. Its not something you can think you're way out of, it requires somatic techniques to help your nervous system re-regulate so that your head, heart and gut can speak the same money language
Since then I've helped hundreds of business owners and busy professionals rewire their nervous systems, so they can release old habits and beliefs about money and power up their self-trust, motivation and goal-setting for even greater success.
From scarcity and overwhelm to confidence and clarity, I deeply understand the challenges you may face around money and mindset. And I want you to know it IS possible to rewire your mind and body for wealth.
The question is ..... will you?
If you're ready to change your story about money, connect with me and let's get started
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